Breaking the Ice
“Sleep seems to hammer out for me the logical conclusions of my vague days, and offer them to me as dreams. ”
― D.H. Lawrence
One of the daunting challenges in life,
approaching someone you don’t know,
and speaking to them.
If you happen to find them attractive,
the stakes of the risk rise.
Why do we find it difficult to break the ice?
Why does speaking to an attractive stranger,
paralyse us with intense trepidation?
Our vocal chords seize up,
our mind goes blank
we become an utterless fool.
A metaphorical hammer is needed,
to smash through the barrier between you and me,
to burst the bubbles dividing self and other.
“What you seek is seeking you.”
If we only we could shift our angle,
see ourselves as they see us,
see them as they see themselves,
and not just see things from our point of view.
We might realise how nervous the stranger is,
about being spoken to,
how our fears are also their fears,
perhaps more so as they may not be attracted to us as we are attracted to them,
yet they do not want to incur our displeasure,
or ruin the pleasure of being found attractive.
What a complicated puzzle,
something so simple can be,
in the hands, mouths and minds of people.
“Love must not entreat,’ she added, ‘or demand. Love must have the strength to become certain within itself. Then it ceases merely to be attracted and begins to attract.”
― Hermann Hesse