“The end justifies the means. But what if there never is an end? All we have is means.”
― Ursula K. Le Guin, The Lathe of Heaven
Those times when I need someone else the most
are also those times when I reject others the most.
This is never clearer than when
I try to do D-I-Y.
No matter how often
the Do-it-yourself instruction manual
tells me that I can do this myself
master this learning curve
with the help of some tools
some knowledge of practical matters
and how to hold a nail when using a hammer
some idea of what you are doing
why you are doing it
and what you aim to achieve
(and how it rarely lives up to what you hope to achieve)
I still am uncertain as to whether I can actually do it myself.
This self doubt
makes me all the more determined
to do this alone
rather than call in reinforcements.
I admire you for already knowing how to do this,
but I want to admire myself for having learned how to do this.
“I suppose it is tempting, if the only tool you have is a hammer, to treat everything as if it were a nail.”
― Abraham Maslow, Toward a Psychology of Being